What Is Versus What Should & Should Not Be

Abstract

The actual source of happiness is the absence of conflict with one's self, and that can be had regardless of whether "what is," in this moment, is or is not wanted. However, when one applies the idea "should not be" to that which is not wanted, then the self-conflict that creates suffering arises. The acceptance and allowing of the forms that arise in one's awareness as "what is" is the shovel that allows one to dig one's self out of the hole of self-conflict that is the ultimate source of one's suffering, as opposed to just continuing to dig the hole deeper using the shovel of what should and should not be.